This week, we have grieved with some friends of ours who are undergoing a devastating child-loss experience. It has been long, and it has been brutally difficult for them, and the outcome was tragic.
When they posted their loss on Facebook this week, one of the first responses was something along the lines of:
"Well, be thankful you've already got one child."
Oh, oh, oh. Dear readers, please do not say this to grieving parents who have just lost a child. Having a living child does not make a loss more bearable, or less tragic. A baby is a baby. A loss is a loss is a loss. Grieving with them, showing love and compassion and commiseration - great. Trying to reason people out of their grief - not okay.
Here's a great list of what not to say to a mother who has miscarried.
Oh. Dear. If you think this family would benefit from connection from another mother who has lost, please feel free to send her my way. You know where to find me. Sending love to them, and to you. Thank you for being supportive to them.
ReplyDeleteMolly, you are so sweet - thank you for that kind offer. If they or others ever need the support, I will for sure send them your way. Thank you!!!
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